When was the last time you checked in with your partner about your relationship? If you're like most people, it may have been a while or perhaps never. Have you considered checking in with your partner on a regular basis?
Relationship check-ins are essential for maintaining a healthy and thriving relationship. What is a relationship check-in? It's dedicated and uninterrupted time with your partner where you discuss how your relationship is going, what's working well and what needs some tuning up.
Why Relationship Check-Ins Are Important
Relationship check-ins provide a dedicated time to connect with your partner and discuss how things are going in your relationship. These conversations, although they may seem awkward or nerdy at first, play a crucial role in fostering communication, trust, and understanding between partners.
The Six Questions for a Check-in
What have I done to make you feel loved and appreciated lately?
How have I been a good partner to you lately, and how can I improve?
What is your favorite thing about how our relationship is going right now?
What's something I can do that would make you feel more loved and appreciated?
What needs and wants are important to you right now?
Is there anything you're currently worried about or that's on your mind that I should know?
The Value of These Questions
Enhancing Communication: By setting aside intentional time for these check-ins, partners can increase communication and ensure that important conversations are happening regularly. The biggest source of conflict in relationships is poor communication and understanding - this leads to fighting and disconnection over time where each partner feels lonely and not understood.
Accepting and Giving Feedback: These questions encourage partners to give and receive feedback from a place of love, building trust and strengthening the relationship. In most couple's, the only time they provide feedback is when things are not going well or in the midst of an argument - we can all agree that feedback is better heard when we sit in a place of love and connection.
Leading with Curiosity: By approaching these questions with an open mind and genuine curiosity, partners can learn more about each other and adapt to their evolving needs and desires. At the beginning of a relationship, we're full of curiosity and ask a lot of questions - this is what dating is all about. Then we get into a relationship and forget to remain curious and instead start relying on what we already know about our partners leaving too much space for assumptions. Get curious and see how that breathes vitality back into your relationship!
Implementing Relationship Check-Ins
Scheduling regular relationship check-ins can transform the way partners communicate and connect with each other. These check-ins don't have to be elaborate; they can be done in a quiet setting, free from distractions, allowing for open and honest conversations.
By incorporating these six valuable questions into your relationship check-ins, you can deepen your connection, address concerns, and celebrate the strengths of your relationship. Remember, the goal is not to fix problems but to foster understanding, vulnerability, and trust in your relationship.
If you find these relationship check-ins helpful, consider sharing this approach with others who may benefit from it. Together, let's build healthier and more fulfilling relationships through open communication and genuine connection.
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